Why is emotional intelligence important to foster in children?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, use and manage one’s own emotions. Some researchers believe that emotional intelligence is a better predictor of children’s future success in life than intelligence quotient (IQ). Your child’s mastery of understanding and regulating their emotions will help them in life in many ways. They will be more confident, have richer social connections and perform better academically.
Children are required to regulate their emotions all the time. For instance, when they’re playing during recess and the bell rings for class. They need to down-regulate their excitement and focus their attention on the teacher.
Emotional intelligence is learned. A way to help children understand and handle their emotions is through emotion coaching. You can teach children about emotions by comforting them, listening, understanding their thoughts and feelings, and helping them understand themselves.
Emotion coaching in a nutshell – 5 simple steps:
Be aware of your child’s emotional expressions (lower intensity displays). Catch emotions when they’re small rather than after they’ve erupted.
Recognise emotion as opportunities to connect or teach.
Help your child learn to label their emotions with words.
Listen with empathy and validate your child’s feelings. Don’t jump to the reason too soon.
Set limits when you are helping your child to solve problems or deal with upsetting situations appropriately. If there are consequences, they would be age appropriate, fair and always followed through.
Over the next few days, when your child expresses challenging emotions, put the steps above to work and discover the benefits of emotion coaching. Remember, it is best to begin practising them in a neutral situation where emotions aren’t too strong!
