Achieving Those New Years' Resolutions

Do you find you fall into the same pattern around January each year - set some goals with renewed motivation, only to fall back into the same habits and guilt-ridden self-criticism a few months later? What if I told you that the problem was not with you, but with your goal-setting process?

Research shows that extrinsic goals, (those focused on obtaining rewards and the positive evaluation of others) generally reflect a sense of insecurity about oneself, and can also lead one to engage in more stressful, ego-involved and controlled behaviour which does not satisfy one's needs. Intrinsic goals however, (values-based, with focus on the 'why' behind the goal) are inherently satisfying to pursue, and encourage experiences that support happiness and wellbeing.

Has your pursuit of goals to date been lack-lustre, unsatisfying and unsuccessful? If so, it's worth taking some time to clarify the values underlying your goals, making them the major focus instead. Imagine your values as your 'compass', providing the direction you want to travel in, then goals become those landmarks you pass on your journey. 

Dr. Amanda Hale is Principal Clinical Psychologist in a practice that has offices in both Bondi Junction and Killara in Sydney.